What when it all looks like a disaster...

In leadership and in life, one of the most underrated skills is the ability to recognise that perception—not circumstance—is often what shapes our reality. While we like to believe we respond to facts and data alone, the truth is that our interpretations, beliefs, and emotional states all profoundly influence the way we experience the world.

Our feelings serve as real-time indicators of our internal narrative. When we feel overwhelmed, fearful, or discouraged, it’s usually not just because of what's happening externally—it’s because of how we are perceiving those events. These emotional signals are valuable. They offer insight into whether we are viewing our circumstances through a constructive or distorted lens.

I’ve seen this play out in my own experience. As the owner of a complex farming business operating in an uncertain environment, I often wake up in an anxious mood. If I don’t catch it early, that mood quietly expands and begins colouring my entire day. Recently, as it became obvious that the extended dry weather will reduce crop yields, lower river flows, and cause significant water shortages (in my mind), I find myself fixating on a looming narrative of doom. My mind paints a vivid picture of crisis, loss, and difficult conversations.

Even though, logically, I understand that this “drama picture” might not be accurate, it certainly feels real. But what I also know—through experience—is that these catastrophic perceptions rarely help.

What helps me is slowing down, observing what’s actually happening, and being radically honest about where I am right now, particularly in relation to primary vision. Only from that place of awareness, can I recalibrate, make a coffee, focus myself on what’s important, and begin again—deliberately and constructively.

And when I can’t? Well, I call it a "Bottom Lip" moment—when it feels like the world is against me, people don't like me and everything bad is happening to me. It’s not rational, but it certainly seems real. Relaxing into these moments is key for me and often offers insight.

The key takeaway is this: forcing a perception shift isn’t helpful. In fact, on trying to mentally override emotions too quickly, it often leads to confusion or internal resistance.

If it happens to you - let the emotional fog settle - It can't hurt you. Gently guide your focus onto something neutral, something present or the clarity of your very own vision.

Emotions are temporary. They’re not truths, but they are signals. The more skillfully you learn to interpret those signals, the more powerfully you can lead—yourself, your team, and your organisation.